Comments on: Do You Love a Rheumatoid Arthritis Patient?

By: Kelly Young

Kelly Young — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 13:21:18 +0000

I am sorry they don’t understand Roberto. I hear this often. It can make it even more difficult to have RA when others expect us to do things we can’t. And do not ackowledge the pain they can’t see. I’m glad if the article helped you know that you are not alone experiencing this.

By: Roberto Carreon

Roberto Carreon — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 03:02:39 +0000

thank you for writing this article I have ra and oa arthritis and even some of my family members do not believe how much pain I have. they expect me to do things that I just can’t. I feel Sad and at times the pain makes me cry. I will show them this great ,but sad article.thank you May God Bless You!!

By: Romona Smith

Romona Smith — Wed, 11 May 2011 16:12:58 +0000

Thank you for your insight. I’ll keep looking for the “perfect” article. Thank you for this forum. It is definitely lonely out here.

By: Kelly Young

Kelly Young — Wed, 11 May 2011 15:03:42 +0000

Romona, you know him best. Maybe you can go through the other posts like this one (for non patients) and see if one of them would help – then you could email it to him w/ the button below it. But if he’s hardcore against admitting the truth about RA then it will be hard to convince him – maybe the posts on mortality?
Links: Posts in category for Non-RA’ers
Posts with the tag of death and RA

By: Romona Smith

Romona Smith — Wed, 11 May 2011 14:53:08 +0000

This is a good start, but it doesn’t go nearly far enough to convince my husband. He is a firm believer in mental toughness, positive attitude, and exercise.He has admitted he doesn’t think I have a disease. I was told by a doctor I have it, just to boost the drug company profits. I should just…, see above. How do you argue with the logic that I should be able to complete my responsibilities, with my pains, since he works(about 25 billable hours per week, we have our own business)with a sore knee, back ache and is tired? All pain is relative to him. We have been married for 25 years. He states that I have always had pain, so what is different now.I can’t seem to explain, and I can’t find a good article to show him. He will not go to a doctor about his pain. I believe he has osteoarthritis, which is painful. So, does anyone have any suggestions?

By: Elsa Mayton

Elsa Mayton — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 18:44:10 +0000

I have a handcap sign in front of my house because of days of pain there are fewer stairs in the front of our house than in the back. Our back stairs lead out to our garage where our car is parked out of the weather. On those days of pain (which are so unpredicatble) I have to go out the front door and my husband has the car waiting by the curb. I had a neighbor ask the city to remove the sign because he got a ticket for parking in the handicap parking. He complained that We don’t even park on the street and he wants to have that space. He said she is not handicaped. The city told him that I had all the documents to have that space reserved for the handicap and if he is claiming he is handicap or has some mental problems then he should get the documentation from his Doctor. Most of the people who work for the city know my story and that I have 14 surgeries to date and that I have rupus. They know at a moments notice I can be wiped out. This man was a real stinker and all the neighbors know about him and how he is. I have tried to make friends with him and tell him I have been on 4 different biological infusions and he seems to have a thick head. I pray for him every day that he never has the problems some of the patients have with RA and Lupus. I also have several added bonuses of the problems of RA. Been there done that is all that I can say.

By: Kelly Young

Kelly Young — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 01:43:20 +0000

Melissa, I really hope he gets “good” news that it’s not RA. You are amazing to be doing this research for a loved one’s suffering. O:-)

Did you find the blood test posts? Use the Tags lists at the top of the page to bring up links to every post on that. Really, there is not one test for RA. Did you see the Do I have RA? on the top menu?

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 20:34:51 +0000

I have to say i’m glad i’m stumbled onto your website…. I found it through a facebook group link & i have spent a good portion of my afternoon browsing… Learning what i can about RA… My boyfriend is yet to be diagnosed but we strongly believe he has RA based on his family history (dad & sister diagnosed) & his symptoms of pain in his hands & feet primarily… He’ll wake sometimes in the morning and he can’t get out of bed they hurt so bad~!! He works in a physically demanding job & it’s soo hard to see him hurt but yet haven nothing to do for him~! The blood test came up negative for the factor so we’re hoping to find a dr who will run more tests on him. It scares me that this could be something else but at the same time i truly believe RA is what he’ll ultimately be diagnosed with. I’m on the search now to find out why people get RA. Not knowing much about it still we are afraid our son will suffer the same pain….
Thank you again for your website…. great information~!!!

By: Kelly Young

Kelly Young — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 05:30:41 +0000

Becky, If you decide later after you and Cindy have connected that you want your email deleted from this comment, just let me know. Not sure if it could cause you any spam.

By: Becky

Becky — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 04:11:26 +0000

Cindy, that would be great, I’d love to meet up with you also. feel free to send me an email. If you are on Facebook I’m there also. Don’t stress over it, there’s nothing to be ashamed for. We all know how it goes . Beckyr2000@aol.com