20 Things Not to Say to a Rheumatoid Arthritis Patient
Another kind of Rheumatoid Arthritis Treatment: how people treat RA
Imagine treating a broken arm with a band-aid. How would it be if a heart attack were treated like the flu? What about telling someone with breast cancer to just go on a diet? Crazy.
However, people often minimize Rheumatoid Arthritis symptoms. When they do this to folks living with Rheumatoid Arthritis, they act like RA is a not a big deal. That would really be fine – if only it were true.
Recently, I asked RA’ers to tell me the most inappropriate things people say to them. I thought it might be funny if we looked at them all here at once. Of course, it might be a learning opportunity besides.
I’ve compiled a list of the top 20 answers I received via Facebook, Twitter, e-mail, and direct message.
- Aren’t you feeling better yet?
- You’re not old enough to have arthritis.
- Oh, I know; me too.
- Exercise would really help you feel better.
- You don’t look swollen, sick, or ______
- Have you tried counseling? Maybe you’re depressed.
- Why do you walk so funny?
- No, it’s not heavy. Here, hold this.
- Have you tried the blue stuff?
- You’re feeling achy. / The aches & pains of arthritis.
- Why didn’t you try glucosamine (or Omega3 or gluten-free…) before you tried that medication?
- Just drink this juice. (Or eat blueberries…)
- Is that your handicapped parking tag?
- You just need to lose some weight. (Or gain weight!)
- I’m glad you’re better now.
- At least it’s not cancer. It’s not like it will kill you.
- I read about a woman who cured hers with…vitamin supplements, antibiotics…
- You just have a low tolerance to pain.
- My Grandmother had that.
- I used Tylenol arthritis and mine went away.
How about you? Did I miss your favorite one? What do people say to you?
Don’t miss the sequel: 20 Replies to Things Not to Say to a Rheumatoid Patient
Note: A special treat coming up on the blog: an interview with a young lady who will inspire you.
- One more thing not to say: 3 Reasons to Stop Saying “Complications of Rheumatoid Arthritis
- Send someone this video! Working and Rheumatoid Arthritis
- Finding a good doctor: 21 Things to Know About Finding a New Rheumatologist
- I’m out to destroy the mythical RA! To Tell the Truth: Will the Real Rheumatoid Arthritis Please Stand Up?
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